Genesis 9:23 And Shem and Japheth took a garment, and laid it upon both their shoulders, and went backward, and covered the nakedness of their father; and their faces were backward, and they saw not their father's nakedness. (KJV)
A perfect example of love covering sins and the very clear difference between that and a gossip. Ham's (the gossip) generations were cursed. He had observed all that his father had done, including looking upon his nakedness. He demonstrated his lack of love for his dad by going to tell his brothers all about the great sin their dad had committed. I have to wonder if maybe Ham did this to justify his own intentions to do the same some day. Or possibly to use this occassion to justify some sin he had committed. Either way, he chose gossiping about it, rather than helping his dad.
The other two boys were completely different in their response to the news. No doubt they spoke about it, but the conversation was in the form of how to help their dad, and this was out of pure hearts. Often we speak about the sins of others with the pretense of helping. We add to our sin of gossip the sin of lying. The real test of our intent is the action we take. Ham and Japheth took immediate, helpful, loving action. They would have to have discussed and worked out a plan of action, "Okay, here's what we should do. We will each take a corner of that blanket right there and cover Dad with it. And to make sure we don't see his nakedness and add to his sin, we will walk backwards into the tent. We will know we have sufficiently covered by him by looking at his the blanket is positioned over his feet."
Am I gossiping or helping? Not all action needs a plan worked out with another person. There are several times when I don't need to get anyone else involved. For instance; when my brother sins against me. I have no need to tell anyone else. I simply follow Matthew 18 with the intentions of restoring my brother to myself. It does not matter that he has wounded me. If I am to be a Christian, or Christ like, I should do as He did with those who pierced Him. Love them, and forgive them.